Morning Moments

Affection? Who needs it?

E V E R Y O N E! Copy that? It is a critical part of bonding. Imagine having a new baby in the house and not caressing it. We kiss the hands and feet and get all the "sugar" we can. It is a normal thing to show affection to the object of your love. NOW HOLD ON! I am not suggesting some foot fetish for your spouse:) But I want us to honestly think about it. When we do not get affection at home, we will seek it elsewhere! THAT IS A FACT! We may not seek it in an immoral way, but that all too often happens, but we need it. We all need it, so don't deny your need for it.

The problem is that many do not know how to express it. Sometimes one who does not come from an affectionate family will marry one who does, and if they do not grow together, they drift apart. Oh, to be sure they may live together "till death us do part", but there is always something missing in the relationship. Futhermore, children are effected by the lack of it and often become hardened to affection or undisciplined in sharing it.

Far too many of us spend our lives "defrauding" our spouse and damaging our children. Kids may say "yuk" when they see mom and dad being affectionate but they need to see that in marriage it is honorable and the bed undefiled, Paul said. Tof fail is to according to Paul, place one in a position of vulnerability. Touching is essential, hugging is critical,kissing is sweet, and sex within marriage is not only necessary, but commaned by God. To withhold from your spouse that which is due, is a clear act and attitude of disobedience and rebellion.

"I'm just not an affectionate person," one may say. Well, GET OVER IT! Another may say, "I just can't seem to get enough affection." Learn some DISCIPLINE then. Balance is the target, so shoot at the target and not at the partner, parent, child, sibbling. When our children were young (even in high school), and I would go to the school for one reason or another, not only they, but also many of their friends would run up to me and hug me. The kids I use to teach in high school still do that to me. You get what you give! So, cast your bread on the water and watch it come home to you. We always need God's grace to do what we have not preciously learned to do, and His grace IS sufficient.

I am not sure just why God is prompting me to deal with this today, but I simply ask HIM to take my mind and hands and express Himself through them.

THINK ABOUT THIS! Why have we become such an immoral and decatant nation? Because we have not taught TRUTH in the home about these matters, but left it to society and the perverts of it to present affection in a distorted, disgraceful, dispicable way.

PRAYER: Father, in the Name of Jesus, help us GET THIS RIGHT! We have created a monster and all the books, psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, and pastors have not made a major difference. Most of us need a miracle in our marriage. Help us as believers to be obedient to you, swallow our pride, reject self, and serve one another.