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Thou shalt not commit adultery
Exodus 20:14

In the first place we must see God's Principle for marriage from the beginning...

The Principle - One man, one woman for life Gen 2:24; Rom 7:1-3

Before we begin, let's see some of the flaws in our thinking about marriage. In Bible days it was not uncommon to marriage as a teenager. Marriages were arranged, and love often had little to do with it. We have so kept our kids from maturity that few are mature enough for marriage before twenty five or thirty. AND we had better teach them from birth that a marriage consists of one man and one woman, no man and man or woman and woman. GOD condemns homosexuality regardless of society’s acceptance. DUH!

Another silly and unbiblical thought is that we must be married in a church by a pastor. There is no Biblical evidence of such a thing. It is another tradition that has created many problems.

One of my daughters was planning her wedding. She lived in the Atlana area. She could not find a church that did not charge twenty five hundred or more for the ceremony to be held there and some of them would not have permitted her father (that's me) to perform the ceremony in their church. So we had a beautiful outdoor wedding at the Country Club overlooking the golf course. The one married in a church is divorced, so I guess I am partial to country club weddings:) One of my sons was married in our home. GET OVER THE GARBABGE that you have to spend $20,000 for something that takes about an hour, to get a bunch of gifts that you should return after the divorce:)

NOW - let's continue.

God's intent for a marriage is for one MAN and one WOMAN to a LIFE committment of bonding and blessing.

BONDING "Bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh" Gen 2:23

Bonding doesn't begin in marriage. It begins with a son and his mother and a daughter and her father. When there is no boding here, there is instability in future relationships with the opposite sex. Daughters learn how to love and respect a male through positive experiences with her father. One of my daughters liked Perrier, so she and I would have a Perrier after I picked her up from school. I called her my Perrier Princess.

Bonding with your child, especially father with daughter and mother with son, affords us the opportunity of teaching them what kind of boys and girls to date, have as friends, and even select as a life mate. We have utterly failed in this area. It it why there is little intimacy (bonding) in marital relationships today. Far too many kids only have one parent around and that parent is so busy making a living and the like, that little bonding takes place at all.

Bond with your child and your child will learn to bond with a spouse one day.

BLESSING "God blessed them" Gen 1:28

God wants to bless our marriages more than we want Him to, but His blessings come from obedience. Remember what He said to Israel, "I have set before your blessing and cursing, life and death...which will you choose?"

The blessing of God is not merely a nice house, new care, etc. What are those things worth if you cannot keep your marriage together? Life does not consist in the abundance of THINGS. The blessings of God are things like a clear conscience (which you cannot have with pre-marital or extra-marital sex). God will never bless what He has condemned.

Love, joy, peace, and all that come with those things make for a blessed marital relationship. Do you think for a minute that God is going to just ignore the fact that you or I have violated His demand for purity and fidelity and then turn around and bless us? NO WAY! Sin demands repentance and confession, and without it there will be no bonding, no intimacy, no blessing, and no stability in a marriage. It is not about money, but about moral responsibility and accountabilty. It is about living for God and for one another. SELFISHNESS is SINFULNESS in any relationship.

BLESSINGS!